Dealing With Goodbye
People get weird when it’s time to say goodbye. Especially when it is a long-term goodbye. Yes, even adults.
Maybe you can identify yourself in one of the following examples:
- You get hyper and say ridiculous things that are completely immature or flat out make no sense. But you continue to jabber on and on and on, following no particular train of thought, anxious to plow through becauseyoucan’thandlethestressandwantitobeoveralready.
- You get super sensitive and cry about every look, feeling, or slight inconvenience. Why did she look at me like that? *sniff* He really said that? *tear trickles down cheek* Why won’t this suitcase just zip up already? *full-on river of tears floods face*
- You go waaaaaay off the charts in the opposite direction and distance yourself emotionally. Your stoic expression rivals George Washington’s likeness on the one dollar bill.
What is it about saying goodbye that throws people into a tailspin? It’s like we morph into overgrown toddlers hiding behind our parents on the first day of preschool. Here’s the good news: getting weird about goodbyes is actually pretty normal.
The simple answer? Goodbyes are hard. You cope by pulling out whatever internal armor you have at your disposal. And while that might get you through the moment, it may cause you to miss out on the positives to be found in the circumstances or, worse, cause the goodbye to end on a negative note.
As you approach THE goodbye that is dropping off your child at college, you may be wondering how you will handle the scenario. In your mind’s eye this young adult is still eight years old and needs help combing his/her hair. (There are so many moving parts, memories, mixed feelings, and uncertainties about this transition that it is easy to dwell on the negatives and become overwhelmed.) Instead, try to focus on the positives!
If you need some help coming up with those positives, maybe these will help get you started:
- The simple fact that they have reached this milestone means they are growing, learning, and taking strides toward adulthood.
- They are here largely because of YOU and your support, guidance, and advice.
- Hopefully, this season of their life will help them continue to mature and impact the world around them in amazing ways.
- They are confident enough to take this step and venture out on their own.
- ______________________ (Your turn! Fill in the blank!)
Here’s to a successful shift from high school to college… make it memorable! (In a positive way!)
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